Today in this 21st century sex seems to be more available than ever. With some swipe on phones, singles schedule their next hookups, while the committed ones are having this “sure thing” every night. This advantage is known as the marriage advantage.
Then the question arises that why are Americans having less sex like they were having 20 years before? According to 2017 study of Archives of Sexual Behavior, the General Social Survey (GSS) found out that the Americans adults have sex “nine fewer times in a year” in the early 2K10 than in the late 90s. It was a decline and that was not explained by long work hours or the increased use of pornography.
GSS is an independent research organization NORC, a University of Chicago with the principle funding from National Science Foundation (NSF). However, it’s not clear that what is cause behind this dip? May there could be potential cause or the couples are having kids later in life which makes them tired for sex.
Effect of Parenting
It came to an observation that many parents think and feel like they have done more than 50 things which they never want to do that like getting up at morning, dealing with children tantrums and then adding sex to the menu seems like it is too much. Said by a psychologist, Samantha Lutz. So we just turn on to Netflix which leads to zero energy expenditure and immediate gratification.
Parents are also seemed to be more involved with their children life than in the past, said a family therapist, Amanda Pasciucco. Whereas in the past years children were getting more freedom and less organized activities which generally gives more time to parents.
According to Debby Herbenick, a counselor, therapist, and president of American Association of Sexuality Educators said that we don’t know that marriage advantage is now a disadvantage because so many things have changed about sex and health related facts in the past decades. It is therefore because American are dealing with the chronic disease like diabetes, taking meditation classes with the sexual side effects and millions of the Americans are surviving cancer.
Tender Effect | Sexual Dysfunction
For the committed couples, technology has also distracted their attention from their partners while at dinner or on a walk with a dog. “I see more couples continuously looking at their respective mobile phones when they are together”, said by an author and sex therapist, Marty Klien. This reduced attention and conversation can’t be good as it reduces the simmering feeling in both the partners.
While they are in bed, they have allowed themselves to drift into habit of looking at phones scrolling just for nothing and this regular habit disconnects them. According to a clinical psychologist, Francie L. Stone, who observed similar behavior while talking to young men and women that seem they use hookup and dating applications to affirm themselves. While taking to women, they particularly use these apps when are bored or drunk. They never meet up and are having no intention to and just enjoy sexual banter.
Taking on note always remember that a healthy sex life is that which works for you and your partner instead and will never be measured by some statistics.
